By Toma Lynn Smith
First of all, “Masturbation is a healthy sexual behavior,” stated Jim Shaw in the article “Over Masturbation.”
Shaw, who has a background in the Health Sciences field, also stated, “Like other behaviors, when over-practiced or addicted, it can lead to both psychological and physiological imbalances.”
Rest assured, your response is normal. “Both men and women clearly associate sexual desire – the subjective, motivational component of sexuality – with passionate love,” stated psychology professor Pamela C. Regan of California State University, in the article. “The Role of Sexual Desire and Sexual Activity in Dating Relationships.”
“Sexual desire can be understood broadly as an interest in sexual objects or activities, or as a wish, longing or craving to engage in sexual activities with another person.”
“Sexual desire is not the same as sexual activity or sexual arousal,” stated Regan.
Masturbation and intercourse are examples of sexual activity, which happens as a result of sexual desire.
If you feel like he is over doing it, remind him of some of the side effects: limp erections and “getting off” way too soon during intercourse, according to Shaw.
Besides, in many it can cause doubt as to whether they are desirable to their masturbating significant other.
This activity is an enhancement not a replacement.
Perhaps letting him know it’s okay or suggesting he incorporate his activities into your sex life together could make you both feel better.
According to Michael Ashworth, PhD, “Good sex begets more good sex – in all its forms. Many couples masturbate together and find it a very enjoyable part of their relationship.”
If his masturbating becomes bothersome for you, do some research together.
There are many sites available online chock full of useful information.
One such site, http://www.psychcentral.com, offers up information on many subjects including masturbation.
The common theme and advice from most specialists seems to be that masturbation, whether alone or with a partner, is normal.
What is normal is up to the people involved.
“I don’t really care if my boyfriend does that,” said Katie Marie a recent U of L graduate.
“We have a great sex life, if anything, it gives me a break.”
As Ashworth stated, “Listen to the good doctor: Masturbation is good for you.”
