By Venus Star
Venus’ new theory on finding love
I have this theory. I have to have theories to justify all the bad that happens in my life, to keep me going instead of saying, “Forget it.” This time, however, I really think that I am on to something. Keep in mind while reading this that nothing here is finalized; I am still in the process of narrowing down what exactly is happening here. Here goes: women give off scents or vibes (still figuring that out) when they are looking for someone, and also when they are not interested or not looking. The second half of the theory involves the men; they pick up on the scent or these vibes, and something in them responds accordingly.
They always say that you find someone when you are not looking, right? Why? Is it because you are just caught up in your own life that you are blind to the signals and situations? I think that, yes, you are caught up in your own life, but at the same time, you give off a scent or a vibe that triggers the object of your affection to be attracted to you. Okay, that said, let me justify it.
For the past three weeks, I have been chasing this guy. Finally, after three weeks, I have given up on him, and wouldn’t you know, the minute I do, he becomes interested. Why? Because while I was chasing him, he knew that I was interested; that I was looking and on the prowl. That scent, a scent that you can’t actually smell with your nose, subconsciously triggers something in the brain to be uninterested. However, the minute that particular scent is no longer subconsciously detected, another one is given off, which triggers another subconscious reaction that causes them to become interested.
These scents (that’s what I am beginning to believe it is) can disappear and appear in seconds. The other night, I was talking with a male friend, and at the time, I was looking at it as a purely “friend” situation, therefore giving off that scent that triggered him to be interested. Things were going great until I picked up on the flirtatious nature of the conversation and gestures; I then became interested and BAM! That other scent came out; he subconsciously detected it and immediately clammed up and was no longer interested, therefore helping to make this theory more believable.
Now, this theory goes both ways. Men, as well, give off this scent when they are on the prowl. Women pick up on it and know that they are only looking for one thing and that they need to stay away. They become aware that they are interested and they put up a defense and are subconsciously programmed to not be interested back.
I am not sure who to tell this theory to: psychologists? Scientists? I don’t know, because I don’t know if they will think I am a quack or a genius. Either way, I think I am on to something here. I am also putting my reputation on the line with my readers. This might spark more readers, or it might turn my devoted fans into nonbelievers who’ll never read my column again. But think about it. Why is it that when you are not looking, you always find something? And when you are looking, looking with all your might, you always come up empty-handed? My friend seems to always have a man, and it’s not because she is looking either. No; she and these men that she goes through always seem to just happen. It’s like there is not enough time for them to pick on the scent and end up together. She never looks, she doesn’t bother with worrying about being alone, and yet she always seems to find herself on the brink of a relationship. I, on the other hand, seem to always be looking, yet always seem to come up empty-handed. I don’t get it! I am pretty, talented, smart, and have a great personality; there just doesn’t seem to be anyone out there interested in me. And I know the answer is to not look, but that is not the answer for me. I am impatient and can’t just wait for it to happen; no, I want it to happen, and I want to be a part of finding the one it happens with.
I think I am on to something here, folks. I think I have uncovered a mystery. Think about it: what other reason could there be?
Venus Star is a weekly relationship columnist for The Louisville Cardinal.
