By Venus Star

Crushing the crush to save your sanity

You have met your soul mate, the one you’ve been dreaming about since you were a child, and you two make the picture-perfect couple. At least that’s what you are thinking now. You have a crush, and they are all that you can think about. You analyze every word uttered, every movement, every glance, every single breath. It’s gotten to the point where you can’t function on a day-to-day basis because all you are thinking about is this other person. Your mind is racing with what to do next, your heart is pounding every time you think about their smile or their laugh. You spend hours on the phone with your friend talking about the latest run-in with this incredible person, no doubt boring your friend to death. WAKE UP!!

Do you realize what is happening here? Do you see what you are doing to yourself? Sure, you are in a better mood because the thought of that person makes you grin from ear to ear. And you’re smiling all the time because you can’t think of anything else. You can’t study, you can’t sleep, and you can’t focus on work. You are a walking zombie with a huge smile. This stage is always nice when you develop a crush on someone; it’s that peaceful stage where the world suddenly seems perfect.

After a few weeks, you are thinking about every single encounter you two have ever shared, wondering whether or not this person is into you. You just have to know what to do next. You can’t just sit around and wait for it to happen, because you have just spent the last two weeks thinking about this person nonstop. Not thinking about this person will make you feel like you have nothing in the world to do (sleeping, studying, and work are no longer important to you at this stage).

More than likely, a week later you have not made any big move on this person, but you are really close. You start thinking of things you can do together, how to approach asking, and then how to execute the plan… which means you are losing even more sleep, falling behind in class, and your boss is getting pretty peeved at your dwindling work ethics.

All the while you are driving yourself mad with these scenarios, the person of your affection isn’t even giving you one single thought. Sad, isn’t it? Once that thought hits you- and trust me, it will- you will just want to crumble up in a ball for a few days, or you’ll just sniffle out a few tears and then swear that you’ll never do this to yourself again. But you will; we all will if we are not already tied down with “the one.”

There are more important things that are going on around you that require your attention. So, just sit back, chill and let it happen. Take a chance or two if you want or feel compelled to, but afterwards, just let it happen. Whether you believe in choosing your own fate or you believe that there is already a destiny designed for you, you can’t control the other person’s fate or their destiny, so just let it happen. You will save your soul from much misfortune.